What is the best way to tell my folks I'm gay?

I also like to wear girls clothes. It's not a sex thing. It just makes me feel more like me when I do. I want them to know before I even start dating anyone, then I won't have to try and keep it from them.

The Young Lovers' Guide replies:

It is hard to answer this question without knowing more about your relationship with your parents, their attitudes to sexuality - and indeed, how old you are.

Still, it's probably fair to say that coming out to parents can be difficult.

Have you tried discussing sexuality - or sexualities - with your parents in general ways? Have you talked about love and sex with them?

This could be a good place to start.

If you then feel that they are going to be okay with your coming out to them, then it's time for the serious talk.

If you feel they're going to be okay.

Explain to them that you have something to tell them. Sit them down. Ask them to listen and not respond straight away. Then tell them - that you feel you're going to love boys.

Explaining by using the word 'love' can help you to open people's minds a bit - and it's true.

Proceed with caution.

And good luck.